Are you the master of your energy and boundaries? Or are you a slave to outdated relationships that you keep on life support while trying to fix and save them? Is your current career inspiring to you, or does it feel like trudging through mud as you watch the clock on the wall daily? Are the people in your life blowing wind beneath your wings, or do they feel like anchors holding you back from flying? It might surprise you that toxic people and unhealthy environments can be the cause of your lack of sleep, sexual arousal, salivation, lacrimation, urination, digestion, and stool issues. Your parasympathetic nervous system is responsible for regulating these functions during periods of rest and digestion. It is one of the three arms of the autonomic nervous system (parasympathetic, sympathetic, and enteric).
I encourage you to identify all unhealthy energies in your life that are causing you to have stress, fear, and anxiety. Knowing the source is the first step to healing yourself and improving your nervous system health. You must clear away all negative people, material possessions, and environments that block you from experiencing higher energy levels. Clearing away the dead weight that isn’t serving your highest and best good is paramount if you wish to be set free and experience true self-mastery.
You must establish boundaries in relationships with friends, coworkers, and family members whose energies can drain you. Consider the people currently occupying free space in your life or those you are supporting emotionally and financially with little to no return. And by that, I mean people who only take from you, whether it be money, time, emotions, or possessions. The deeper question is, “Why am I allowing this?” As you begin to take ownership of your choices and understand that you have been allowing people in your field who suck the life out of you, you can start to reclaim your power by setting boundaries and expressing them clearly. If people in your life don’t know how you feel, they will continue to act in ways that disturb the rhythms of your nervous system. If people will not honor your clear and reasonable boundaries, it’s time for new people.
People ask me, “How do I walk away from family members?” Easy, blood, no blood, makes no difference. Societal programming keeps us anchored to people in our families who are toxic for us to be around. We feel we owe them something, or bow down to family expectations and shame. Once you understand that you don’t owe anyone anything, you can begin to dismantle the false belief systems that keep you rooted to a family member who will never honor your boundaries and push you to be the best version of yourself. Only you can release all the toxicity blocking your true, higher calling —the reason you were born. You can attain self-regulation of the parasympathetic nervous system by practicing self-love in all aspects of your life. These practices of turning inward to find the strength to walk away from family relationships also apply to friendships. Boundaries can serve you in every aspect of your life.
Many I have worked with over the years have come to the realization that they have had friendships for decades that probably should have ended years ago. Can you think of a person like this? Someone has a victim mentality, constantly living in the problem, and expecting you to listen to their sad story. They only want time with you if you will co-sign and join in their suffering. A quick way to see who your true friends are is to stop texting or calling them for a period of time. Do they reach out to check on you and see if you’re okay? Do they genuinely care about you? Are they there for you when times are tough? Do they possess the ability to listen and hold space for you without trying to solve or fix your problem? You know the one who always has an answer for all your problems when their own life is in shambles. They claim to know how to clean your porch when theirs is a disaster. Again, we turn the focus inward and ask, “Why am I allowing this energy vampire to stay in my life?”
Is your career serving you? If the answer is no, why do you stay in your current job? You should wake up excited about what you will create or who you will help. You can’t put a price tag on serving the passions that are within you. Humans are often driven to make money in order to create the life that society has programmed everyone to follow. Are you in your career for the money or because you truly love what you do? The “system” grabs people at a young age and implants a false sense of pleasure and purpose. I chased money and material possessions, only to realize that when I achieved all I wanted, I was still miserable. I wasn’t sleeping through the night, my anxiety was through the roof, I had digestive issues, and I felt like I was always behind while trying to hold on to everything I had. Eventually, everything, including my marriage, stopped working for me, and I had a nervous system breakdown at age 41.
Once I began to remove everything and everyone from my life that didn’t belong there, I started getting physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually healthy. It took some time and a lot of courage to set the boundaries I needed to set. I stepped away from my career as a real estate broker, I divorced a wife that I was allowing to create debilitating anxiety within me, I changed my diet and recommitted to my physical wellbeing, I spent more time alone in nature, I stopped communicating with everyone on my father’s side of the family, I walked away from friendships that were built on nothing and completely one-sided, and I learned how to breathe myself back to health. I travel extensively around the world, and I have not been sick in eight years. I take no supplements and use no devices. 25 ½ years ago, I got sober, so I no longer poison my body with alcohol or any other mind-altering substances.
I’m closer with people I’ve known for less than six years than I was with anyone in my previous 50 years, because I’m setting proper boundaries. I’m no longer programmed to believe that just because I was born into a family, I must spend time with them or allow their heavy energy into my life. There are people in life I must love from afar. I’m building a family of my choice today, and I owe nothing to anyone! No matter how much money I make, I’m going to find my source of happiness and inner peace through service to humanity. I now serve my call to love as I evolve to follow my true purpose. Healthy boundaries have set me free, and I’m the healthiest I’ve ever been in my life at age 56.
Here is an easy checklist to help you get started as you set and commit to your boundaries within your relationships, career, and other areas of life.
- Set Your Boundaries
- Hold Your Boundaries
- Recommit to Them Daily
- Make Sure Everyone in Your Life Knows Your Boundaries
- Clear Away Dead Weight
- Love From a Healed Place, Not a Wounded One
- Be the Change You Wish to See
You don’t have to continue to carry around the weight of unhealthy relationships and conditions. Setting boundaries will set you free of toxic environments and create new, healthy lifestyles!
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